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Posted: Fri Jun 12th, 2009 04:42 pm |
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I've been unable to post the past couple of days, but wrote my posts anyway. Here is June 10:
15 Days Without Masturbating
It's 15 days w/o ejac. as of today! For me that's quite an accomplishment, last done as of 4/13/2009--and Sept. 2006, prior to that. So 15 days seems to be my breaking point. But I'm really trying to get past the 15-day point this time. Testicles are somewhat sore the last couple of days, feel sensitive, heavy and full. Feels like they need to be "milked" or something, but I guess that would defeat the goal of redirecting my long-wasted sexual energy to accomplish positive improvements to my life--and take care of things I've been ignoring for far too long.
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Posted: Fri Jun 12th, 2009 04:44 pm |
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Have been unable to post the past couple days. Here is my post from June 11, 2009:
16 days without ejaculating
as of today. Got really close to "losing it" simply taking a shower last night. One wouldn't think there's anything sexy about a washrag merely doing its job. No semen escaped, though.
Awoke hard and aroused this morning--seemed like only a little touch would have caused an explosion. There seemed to be a little precum already present as well, but definitely no semen was released from my 16-day accumulation. The sexual frustration has been much more distracting today and yesterday than it was at day 14. But I'm determined not to give in.
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Posted: Fri Jun 12th, 2009 04:46 pm |
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17 Days Without Ejaculating
PLEASE DON'T GIVE IN no matter how "desperate" you might TEMPORARILY be. I'm blessed/cursed with one of those libidos that is still virtually as powerful as when I was 18, which is over 10 years ago. I've kept hoping the sexual desire would subside at least somewhat with each passing year. So for me it's incredible achieving 17 days without ejaculating as of today! I was much more easily able to exercise my usual 4 miles this morning; it seemed almost effortless. On day 16, last evening, I was afraid of giving in. The desire was getting stronger. So before I risked wasting/losing this wonderful energy, I started swimming laps in the pool. You know what, that really helped cure the annoying arousal. I guess it's true that it you redirect that desire quickly enough, instead of giving in, you can "take care of it" by something as simple as swimming. I was skeptical that this would work, and fully expected the urge to be unbearable by later in day 16. But now it's midway thru day 17 and I'm feeling great, actually! There's some arousal, but it's actually welcome and pleasant. It's not the "I must cum now or else I'll die" trap that we've all fallen for in the past. Some say if you can make it to a certain point, the desire won't be as overwhelming as it was. Maybe I'm at that point. Time will tell.
I think this current 17 days is the furthest I've made it since March of the year I was 14! That month, I made it a full 31 days without any ejaculation. I recall accomplishing a major project installing miles of cable over a 200-acre property that March. Hmmm, wonder if I'd ever gotten that done if not for abstaining? I doubt it.
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Posted: Fri Jun 12th, 2009 05:44 pm |
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WillWait wrote: 17 Days Without Ejaculating
PLEASE DON'T GIVE IN no matter how "desperate" you might TEMPORARILY be. I'm blessed/cursed with one of those libidos that is still virtually as powerful as when I was 18, which is over 10 years ago. I've kept hoping the sexual desire would subside at least somewhat with each passing year. So for me it's incredible achieving 17 days without ejaculating as of today! I was much more easily able to exercise my usual 4 miles this morning; it seemed almost effortless. On day 16, last evening, I was afraid of giving in. The desire was getting stronger. So before I risked wasting/losing this wonderful energy, I started swimming laps in the pool. You know what, that really helped cure the annoying arousal. I guess it's true that it you redirect that desire quickly enough, instead of giving in, you can "take care of it" by something as simple as swimming. I was skeptical that this would work, and fully expected the urge to be unbearable by later in day 16. But now it's midway thru day 17 and I'm feeling great, actually! There's some arousal, but it's actually welcome and pleasant. It's not the "I must cum now or else I'll die" trap that we've all fallen for in the past. Some say if you can make it to a certain point, the desire won't be as overwhelming as it was. Maybe I'm at that point. Time will tell.
I think this current 17 days is the furthest I've made it since March of the year I was 14! That month, I made it a full 31 days without any ejaculation. I recall accomplishing a major project installing miles of cable over a 200-acre property that March. Hmmm, wonder if I'd ever gotten that done if not for abstaining? I doubt it. Testicles are very sensitive, feel heavy and swollen, and hurt at times. What are the chances I could be doing any physical damage by going 17 days and counting without any ejaculation? I keep reading that males should ejaculate at least once every 14 days or risk prostate problems, infection, etc.
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Posted: Sat Jun 13th, 2009 01:48 am |
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WillWait wrote: 17 Days Without Ejaculating
PLEASE DON'T GIVE IN no matter how "desperate" you might TEMPORARILY be. I'm blessed/cursed with one of those libidos that is still virtually as powerful as when I was 18, which is over 10 years ago. I've kept hoping the sexual desire would subside at least somewhat with each passing year. So for me it's incredible achieving 17 days without ejaculating as of today! I was much more easily able to exercise my usual 4 miles this morning; it seemed almost effortless. On day 16, last evening, I was afraid of giving in. The desire was getting stronger. So before I risked wasting/losing this wonderful energy, I started swimming laps in the pool. You know what, that really helped cure the annoying arousal. I guess it's true that it you redirect that desire quickly enough, instead of giving in, you can "take care of it" by something as simple as swimming. I was skeptical that this would work, and fully expected the urge to be unbearable by later in day 16. But now it's midway thru day 17 and I'm feeling great, actually! There's some arousal, but it's actually welcome and pleasant. It's not the "I must cum now or else I'll die" trap that we've all fallen for in the past. Some say if you can make it to a certain point, the desire won't be as overwhelming as it was. Maybe I'm at that point. Time will tell.
I think this current 17 days is the furthest I've made it since March of the year I was 14! That month, I made it a full 31 days without any ejaculation. I recall accomplishing a major project installing miles of cable over a 200-acre property that March. Hmmm, wonder if I'd ever gotten that done if not for abstaining? I doubt it.
How can I overcome this needless, evil desire? The urge and testicular discomfort had completely subsided by this evening, so with the "hair trigger" seemingly gone I thought nothing of taking a quick shower. The INSTANT I began washing my privates it became fully aroused and felt ready to explode within seconds. This has been the most powerful wave of sinful lust in 17 days. I stopped immediately before anything else happened. Does this mean I've failed in resisting temptation? No semen escaped, fortunately. I really seemed to winning this battle against sinful urges most of today. Now what all of a sudden, without warning, does my body go from 0 arousal to on the verge of ejaculating within seconds? I've had such a wonderful, productive, spiritual day today. What can I do to keep this monster from rearing its ugly head? It's been such a struggle to resist masturbating for 17 days thus far. I really really don't want to lose the 17 days being sober I've struggled so hard to achive. It's been YEARS since I've been sober for 17 days. I want to build on the positive, Christain spirituality I was projecting for most of the day today. But how? How can I make it to 18 days, 19 days, and beyond to secure a purer heart and spiritual future--overcoming this ejaculatory temptation--so perhaps I can help others who are struggling? Please SOMEONE offer me some guidance to at least resisit ejaculating, better yet any masturbation, which I know has for years reduced my potential in life.
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Posted: Sat Jun 13th, 2009 01:39 pm |
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18 days without ejaculating as of today!
My spiritual, physical and emotional life is definitely best if I avoid masturbation altogether. However, when the temptations are strong, somewhere I got the idea masturbation was OK as long as I don't dare ejaculate. On the surface at least, this seems like it would work. I'm not totally giving in to temptation/sin/lust by getting any sort of "release" from it. I make sure to safely stop before I'm too close to the edge. Isn't nonejaculatory masturbation better than "giving in" to complete masturbation? It's certainly less tiring, and might be helpful if it keeps me sober a few more days. At some point I'd expect that nonejaculatory masturbation might get too frustrating, perhaps even harmful to the body. But by then, hopefully I've invested enough days I can remain sober direct my energy/thought to higher pursuits.
If I always stop short of ejaculating, am I at least making some progress toward stopping altogether?
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Posted: Sun Jun 14th, 2009 12:08 pm |
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I am a porn addict. If I were to apply your logic to my situation then I would consider looking at underwear ads as an improvement over looking at hardcore pornography. The problem is that the underlying needs that are driving my addiction in the first place are still going unmet. I cannot fix this thing on my own, nor can I both indulge my flesh and be free of it at the same time.
I know how hard this is for you, especially at this point. Rather than asking yourself what the right thing for you to do, I would propose changing the question.
What is the wise thing for you to do? Based upon your past experience with masturbation, your current circumstances and your future hopes and dreams, what is the wise thing to do? We are called to live wisely as Christians. The wisest move anyone can make is to live in line with the word of God and seek God for assistance in doing so.
Consider this passage of scripture...
Those who live according to the sinful nature have their minds set on what that nature desires; but those who live in accordance with the Spirit have their minds set on what the Spirit desires. The mind of sinful man is death, but the mind controlled by the Spirit is life and peace; the sinful mind is hostile to God. It does not submit to God's law, nor can it do so. Those controlled by the sinful nature cannot please God.
You, however, are controlled not by the sinful nature but by the Spirit, if the Spirit of God lives in you. And if anyone does not have the Spirit of Christ, he does not belong to Christ. But if Christ is in you, your body is dead because of sin, yet your spirit is alive because of righteousness. 11And if the Spirit of him who raised Jesus from the dead is living in you, he who raised Christ from the dead will also give life to your mortal bodies through his Spirit, who lives in you.
Therefore, brothers, we have an obligation-but it is not to the sinful nature, to live according to it. For if you live according to the sinful nature, you will die; but if by the Spirit you put to death the misdeeds of the body, you will live, because those who are led by the Spirit of God are sons of God. For you did not receive a spirit that makes you a slave again to fear, but you received the Spirit of sonship. And by him we cry, "Abba, Father." The Spirit himself testifies with our spirit that we are God's children. Now if we are children, then we are heirs-heirs of God and coheirs with Christ, if indeed we share in his sufferings in order that we may also share in his glory.
-Romans 8:5-17
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Posted: Sun Jun 14th, 2009 03:11 pm |
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19 Days Without Ejaculating as of today
I feel phenomenal this morning! Perhaps the best I've felt in years. Maybe partly because I didn't really touch any more than necessary for hygiene yesterday, and not at all today. A little precum suddently appeared after taking out the trash last evening, along with a sort of minor contraction. I wasn't thinking or doing anything sexual at the time. That was strange. During the night I awoke seemingly on the verge of a "wet dream" and a pretty full bladder. It felt like if I didn't immediately get up and urinate it would explode all on its own. I really didn't want that to happen! So I urinated, and all was fine. Went right back to sleep. Is there any correlation between full bladder and wet dream? It was full, but not bursting.
This morning, after returning from a 4-mile exercise trail, I was surpised to discover a few drops of actual semen. However, I felt nothing sexual while exercsing. No erection while exercising.
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Posted: Sun Jun 14th, 2009 08:23 pm |
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Hi WillWait
I experienced ejaculation on pilates-excercise some time ago and it has happened that ejacualation has occured only by watching erotics on the interenet...
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Posted: Mon Jun 15th, 2009 12:40 pm |
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20 Days Without Ejaculating as of today
Maybe I've reached a milestone of sorts at 20 days? Felt pretty aroused last night, but didn't give in. It was hard to get to sleep, both literally and figuratively! This morning it was nice to awaken flaccid. "This is not so bad," I thought. A moment later the corner of the blanket barely brushed against me, resulting in everything being fully erect in an instant. This time the erection is not going down, either! Unlike past times, I'm trying to some extent to "enjoy" the arousal without giving in. So far the sexual frustration seems manageable, not overwhelming like usual. But I'm better at resisting temptation in the morning, when the urge typically isn't as powerful.
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Posted: Mon Jun 15th, 2009 07:40 pm |
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John and Truthseeker,
I appeciate your input and guidance. My reasons for doing this include wasting less time and energy on sexual things, in order to focus on other areas of my life I've neglected. While it's an accomplishment to make it to 20 days without ejaculating as of today, and it seems like my frequent edging has helped me make it to 20 days--I'm starting to realize that time spent edging is still time not devoted to higher pursuits, like decluttering the house and generally getting my life in order...Maybe I need to be 100% abstinent and celibate for a month? Two months?? My current 20 days is possibly a step in the right direction, if I can remove the edging component. If I can't avoid sex altogether, perhaps I need to find a way to spent as little time on sex as possible, at least for now? Maybe that could be following doctors' supposed two week rule, whereby the only time I devoted to sex would be every 14 days, when I would spend no more than 5 minutes masturbating to completion. And be done with it, to focus on more important things...
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Posted: Wed Jul 8th, 2009 10:48 pm |
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Achieved One Full Week - 7 Whole Days Without Masturbating as of 7/7/09
Happy to report I'm back on track with one week total abstinence as of July 7. Had a setback on June 30. Cute gal about 20 on my street who I've known for years sweetly asked me to help her move furniture.
After all that I was hoping the tiredness would prevent me from masturbating, almost like a default sort of chastity. Either my sexual frustration was boiling over, or my defenses were down. I got caught in that "end of month" trap, thinking I gotta cum "one last time" on the last day of the month. I knew that a 2nd ejaculation would really ruin my quest. So the good news is I resisted the urge to cum again. It's been very hard, but I haven't masturbated, cum, or anything now for a full week. I only ejaculated ONCE on June 30 and not at all since then.Last edited on Fri Jul 10th, 2009 05:28 am by WillWait
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Posted: Wed Jul 8th, 2009 10:52 pm |
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I appreciate everyone's timely encouragement, which is likely helping prevent a relapse. 10 days as of July 10! No masturbating for me since June 30, 2009!
Arousal for most of recent days wasn't too bad, actually surprisingly low. "This abstaining for higher pursuits is easy," I recall thinking. Late afternoon the sexual frustration suddenly went from 2 to 10. I don't understand why horniness suddenly spikes for no apparent reason--increases exponentially like that, rather than the body gradually getting hornier? Arriving home, I turned on the computer--normally an accomplice in my stuck cycle of repeatedly wasting every ounce of my sexual energy. Fortunately the first thing I came across was a helpful post, reminding me of the self-inflicted consequences of masturbating : ejaculation usually ruins my motivation in many ways, in addition to leaving that uneasy, unpleasant "blah" feeling. Just one ejaculation won't always immediately ruin my mood. But unfortunately "only one" ejaculation inevitably leads to several in quick succession--which definitely have serious adverse effects.
Even so, why is it so annoying being horny? It's not exactly painful, other than occasional testicle "heaviness." Horniness is certainly preferable to real, actual pain like a root canal. Horniness is sneaky. The hornier I get, the easier it is to forget the serious drawbacks to ejaculating. It was hard to do, but I'm very thankful I got to sleep without masturbating last night.
I'm surprised I'm so sexually frustrated after only 10 days, seeing how others last longer before seriously considering ejaculation as the only option. Hopefully my arousal is peaking now, so if I can just get past the next few hours/days, the horniness can be manageable again.Last edited on Fri Jul 10th, 2009 05:32 am by WillWait
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Posted: Thu Jul 16th, 2009 12:42 pm |
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I'm really inspired by you guys, I wish to join in too.
I hope this sense of accountability to each other will help me rid myself of this bad habit.
Its been 1 day.
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Posted: Thu Jul 16th, 2009 03:51 pm |
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16 Wonderful Days Since I Last MB on 6/30/2009
Just wanted to give some encouragement to those abstaining. Day 11 and onward is really awesome! I'm hardly bothered at all by arousal; instead easily able to focus on things I need to get done, and basically just feel great. So rest assured once you get past the first 8 days, and especially be careful of days 9 and 10, which were particularly tempting--things are a lot better starting with Day 11. Day 14, 15, and 16 I've felt absolutely fantastic!
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Posted: Thu Aug 27th, 2009 05:48 pm |
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I've changed my mind about the issue being discussed and deleted my original post. All the best to those still struggling with what is right or wrong.
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