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Posted: Wed Nov 4th, 2009 02:53 am |
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day two.
Im really struggling with having hope and not being depressed. Im trying to not focuson my sin but that isn't working well. All in all its been a rough day. Trying to not focus on it is a lot harder than i thought but i will still not allow myself to fall back into that self loathing.
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Posted: Wed Nov 4th, 2009 10:45 am |
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Hi Zach,
From what I've read, it is important not just to stop a sinful habit, but to replace it with a positive one, such as Bible reading, listening to praise music, working out, doing volunteer work, etc.
Continuing to pray...
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Posted: Wed Nov 4th, 2009 12:13 pm |
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From what I've read, this addiction has a multi-faceted etiology and it requires a multi-faceted approach to treatment.
1. I am convinced you are on the front lines of spiritual warfare, so you must fight the spiritual battle.
2. As Mike Genung has written, "Confront the father wounds." Whatever your earthly father did or did not do, whatever your mother did or did not do, probably set you up for this. Identify the source of the intimacy disorder or attachment disorder and find a counselor to help you deal with this root cause.
3. Behaviorally, when the urge strikes, find something else to do. Take a walk. Work out. Sing. Listen to music. Find a healthy, behavioral distractor.
4. Acknowledge the neurochemical piece. You've been self-medicating by triggering the release of endorphins. This self-medication is no different than if you'd been popping pills or drinking booze. My therapist has said that a porn addicted brain is nearly identical to a cocaine addicted brain. I believe "Truthseeker" posted this on another thread: "Porn is not addiction-lite. It cannot be dealt with using recovery-lite."
May God bless and keep you throughout this difficult time.
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Posted: Wed Nov 4th, 2009 01:23 pm |
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| Yes, but I was quoting TM2. :-)
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Posted: Wed Nov 4th, 2009 01:37 pm |
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I found this article linked from "The Marriage Bed" and it does a pretty good job of explaining how Internet pornographers use male brain structure and tendency to addict the unsuspecting male.
I hope this blesses you and helps you to understand the neurochemical piece to this.
http://www.netnanny.com/learn_center/article/117
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Posted: Thu Nov 5th, 2009 04:39 am |
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Day three
Thanks everyone for the advice and encouregment. its helped a lot throughout this thing. thanks specifically for the link about the brain. i thought it was good to know what is going on in a physical sense. Not much temptation. been praying a lot. other than that nothing to say for today.
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Posted: Sat Nov 7th, 2009 02:07 am |
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day five.
i have been doing really good today but i have a huge need for prayer right now. I am home alone with the internet for the whole weekend. I know that most likely i will fail. please pray that God will help me. thanks
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Posted: Sat Nov 7th, 2009 06:54 am |
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| So i screwed up again today. I am on the verge of thinking there is no hope for me...but thats not what i wanted to say. I have decided that i need to stop using the computer all together for any reaoson that is not related to school. i was a fool to think i could use the computer and not give into temptation. either a fool or just ignorant by choice. This means that starting tomorow no computer. pray for me. pray for strength and pray for determination.
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Posted: Sat Nov 7th, 2009 02:21 pm |
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Praying for you........never ceasing...........
Please try to find a counselor and a support group.............you need it now as much or more than a drug addict needs treatment.............please do it for yourself and your future wife, future children.
My best, DW
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