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| Posted: Tue Nov 1st, 2011 06:47 pm |
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need2bfree Member
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I have said to him many times how he threw our marriage away and destroyed our family unit, I am glad you understand that fact. Best of recovery to you.
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| Posted: Tue Nov 1st, 2011 06:48 pm |
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need2bfree Member
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I have said to him many times how he threw our marriage away and destroyed our family unit, I am glad you understand that fact. Best of recovery to you.
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| Posted: Thu Nov 3rd, 2011 12:20 am |
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cog 2 Member 
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Dear Need2bfree, It is a wonderful thing to know that something I said may have had a positive effect on another soul. I give all the glory to God because without Him I would not have anything worthwhile to say. I am beginning to understand that the only cure for SA or IA is God Himself. If I don't allow an intimate relationship with God I have no hope of recovery! Since I suffer with IA this will be a stretch for me and I will need to learn to rely heavily on God to have that relationship with God. I will pray for you and for your soon to be ex that you both will recover and flourish! In His Love, Bob
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| Posted: Thu Nov 3rd, 2011 08:10 pm |
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Devastated Wife Member
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Hi Cog2, I will be very interested to read of your experience at the intensive. Best, DW
____________________ My best, Devastated Wife |
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| Posted: Fri Nov 4th, 2011 09:26 pm |
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cog 2 Member
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DW, I will be happy to relate my experience at the intensive. I thank you for introducing me to the problem in the first place! Bob
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| Posted: Sun Nov 20th, 2011 01:05 am |
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Tired of the Same Dance Member
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Cog2, I am new to this site and have been reading previous post and replies. I look forward to when you come back on here and tell us how it went with the Heart to Heart. You sound like you are on the right path and recovery from this choice that has plaged your life and have gotten closer to God also. And 175 days and 2 years without porn is quite an accomplishment. My heart and prayers goes out to you and your family. If you would like to know a bit about me please see a post that has to do with The choices that I made and the choice that saved me. Take care brother and continue the good fight.
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| Posted: Sun Nov 20th, 2011 02:24 am |
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cog 2 Member
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Welcome Tired, Thank you for your encouragement, it means a lot when a fellow addict says it! We know the struggles and pitfalls that we face every day! I did read of you last evening and you are in my prayers, it has to be very tough facing this challenge in your present circumstances. Hang in there, continue to post and reach out to others and you will be blessed for doing so. That I learned here on this forum. There are friends here that will hurt with us and laugh with us and cry with us when needed!! May God bless you for your courage! As far as the intensive is concerned, it was everything they say it is and then some! It was very intensive and gave my wife and I so much new found hope! We came home physically exhausted but emotionally and spiritually inspired and renewed. I attended 6 meetings in 3 days and the fellowship and support was overwhelming to say the least. These people get it! They have the same problem I do and are going through the same crap that I am! They can relate!! I once thought that I was alone in this fight and now know that I am not only in company but accepting company and supportive company who I can count on to help all the way! If intimacy anorexia is something that you or someone you know suffers from, these are the people to see. Blessings, Cog 2 Last edited on Sun Nov 20th, 2011 02:32 am by cog 2 |
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| Posted: Tue Nov 22nd, 2011 01:51 am |
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Tired of the Same Dance Member
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Cog 2, Great to hear back from you. I was wondering about this forum and members that have posted in the past and then just left. Did they find the help that they were looking for and forgot about us, did they fail again and have given up or what ever else I could think of, but would take to much room. But that is not my concern, mine is healing over this choice that was so long ago and have ruled my life. Thank you for sharing your experience about the Heart to Heart with us. I was FB friends with Everyman's Battle on FB and I would get phone calls from them letting me know when the next even would be. Never close to the area where I live but it felt really good when I got that call, letting me know that I haven't been forgotten and the group wanted me to go. But at the time I didn't have $1700 to go and the closes would of been Atlanta Georgia. 6 hours away from where I live not a problem but the money always was. So I always made excusses for not going. All were true but I still wanted to go but never did. I guess that was how I was with the choices I made to view porn and masturbate. I wanted to stop but always made the excusses of why I needed to do it. It wasn't because of the money, (I became really good with google and searching for free sites), and the masturbation didn't take away from my time with my family, (I did it when I was cleaning my work area and everyone was asleep). And it was a choice that I made that I kept doing what I wanted because of the high and the flesh wanted what the flesh wanted. So here I am now because of those choices that I made and now dealing with the consequences of my actions. But God has a plan for me and to use those choices to help heal those later in my life. Yes my situation is unique but I think I have a better chance of following God and what he has plan for me by being over here. The challenge will be when I go home and everyday life will be back upon me. But I know God will provide when that day comes and I need to focus on the now and not the future. The military has gotten very family oriented since 9-11 and has alot of programs on soldiers returning back to the states and reunited with their families. One of them is called Strong Bonds, which is like a marriage retreat for 3 days. No kids, just you and your spouse together and learning to reconnect, since you were gone. I going to bring it up to my wife and hope she would like to go. It is military and Christian based, and I have heard nothing but great things about it. As for my spouse, we are doing better as the days go by. Before she couldn't stand to be on the phone with me and she would just put on a face because of the kids are there when we are talking. Now she can have a conversation with me and it is a bit more pleasent. And everytime before I get off the phone with her, I tell her that I love her. She told me that she doesn't feel it and that she will not tell me it back. But I'm not saying it to get a responds back, I'm telling her because I do love her and will never stop loving her, even if she decides to never tell me again. I leave it in Gods hands and I have faith that in her own time and in the distaint future that one day she will tell me that she loves me again. But that is on her own time and she has eternity. Not my will but thy will be done. Thank your prayers and support. Your family are in my thoughts and prayers also. We are not alone in this and with God at the control, not us we an defeat this. Take care my brother and God Bless.
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