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LindaBeans
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 Posted: Sat Jul 10th, 2010 12:34 am
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Sorry i deleted the post. This was because i felt embarrassed for coming in here and writing out of depression. And also i hate being told to leave my husband. I've been told that way to many times by almost half the world. I guess i sound dumb for always saying this. But i really do feel that i love my husband and it's not because i pity him and i think no one will love him. If anything there are a lot of amazing women in this world that love means more then what happened in the past or who they are now. Maybe it is co dependancy or foolishness. But to me i can see pass my husband past, because everyone has one. I have a dark one, and he decided to pursue me anyways. Why? Because he saw what i saw in him. Someone special and destine for greatness, even though its covered in dirt. There's someone good there.

But im no one to see that everything i say or do is the right way, i will take in peoples suggestions because they are my 3rd person view of me. Thank you for giving the time to write to me and suggest this book. I will read it and hope it will help me on the path that im in with my husband :)

Last edited on Sat Aug 7th, 2010 06:02 am by LindaBeans



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 Posted: Sat Jul 10th, 2010 01:24 pm
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The solution is simple:  Leave.

Unless and until he is in active recovery, the mind games will continue, he will be emotionally unavailable, he will actively work to destroy you and you will feel like you are crazy.  The only way to stop the insanity is to leave him.

After you leave and settle, Please read "Women who love too much" .....see if you recognize yourself.  Find a counselor who can help you deal with the pain of the past and help you to recognize and become part of a healthy relationship.

For your sake, leave.  This is the same advice I would give my daughter.

My best,  DW



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