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| Posted: Sat May 28th, 2011 12:18 pm |
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Hi LadyP, With God all things are possible. But He will not override our free will, so if your husband will not use his free will to seek freedom... All wounds/broken bones have scar tissue, but often that scar tissue makes for strength that was not there before. Also, overcoming this does not mean that the day to day challenges and work of marriage are behind you. So, yes, it is possible, but it is an uphill battle. TruthSeeker
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| Posted: Sat May 28th, 2011 04:57 pm |
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Last edited on Sat Mar 17th, 2012 09:27 am by LadyP |
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| Posted: Sat May 28th, 2011 04:58 pm |
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| Posted: Sat May 28th, 2011 05:35 pm |
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What are the emotions that you go through? In short, you are going through grief. You will likely experience every emotion that you find in a person who is grieving. You are grieving the loss of the life you thought you had. The realization that your entire marriage has been a lie is quite a shock for anyone and I don't think anyone could or should be prepared for such an event. Shock, disbelief, anger, pain, disgust, are all normal emotions for you right now. "What can I do to fix this?" This is so typical. They just want this to be over. They have NO CLUE what they've done to you as a woman, but they want you to be "fixed" quickly. Your response was dead on. The only thing that could possibly fix this is to go back in time, and clearly, that's not possible. He's just going to have to suffer the consequences. Your healing cannot adhere to his schedule. This is your grief, and you have to work through it at your pace. Don't allow him to rush you or to tell you that what you are experiencing is "wrong" or "completely out of place." He has no clue what he has done to you. He can't possibly fix this. He can't possibly fathom what you are experiencing. He must not be permitted to interfere with your approach to healing. It's something you have to do, for yourself and by yourself....with the support of understanding women. My best to you, DW
____________________ My best, Devastated Wife |
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| Posted: Sat May 28th, 2011 05:45 pm |
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Last edited on Sat Mar 17th, 2012 09:28 am by LadyP |
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| Posted: Sat May 28th, 2011 09:43 pm |
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Last edited on Sat Mar 17th, 2012 09:28 am by LadyP |
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| Posted: Sun May 29th, 2011 01:18 am |
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Devastated Wife Member
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My "husband" hid this from me for 23 years. We've been conned by the best. Remember, you are not alone in this. Please don't blame yourself for any of it. My best to you, DW
____________________ My best, Devastated Wife |
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