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mike
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Posted: Thu May 5th, 2005 06:19 pm |
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In early 2003 the church we formerly attended took a survey of the men and asked them when the last time they'd looked at porn was. The results were:
25% - within 1 month
44% - within 6 months
61% - within the past year
The leadership of the church did not publish the results to the congregation, nor did they do anything about it. In the church we went, the topic of porn was mentioned once from the pulpit in 7 years, and I've heard of similar experiences from others who go to other churches.
The problem of this silence is that it causes those who struggle with lust to believe they are a freak, or pervert, or that they will be rejected, so they keep their problem a hidden secret until it blows up. In part this is why so many men have a hard time coming to a support group for the first time; if I'm "the only one" who struggles with porn, then I dare not tell other Christians.
This is why those who need help usually don't look for it until they've gone too far and their life has bottomed out. Most guys who come to our groups have done so because they got caught and were forced to get help.
We who are talking about this topic are the tiniest tip of the iceberg; this issue needs to be discussed in clear terms from pulpits everywhere, often, until the stats no longer show that 50% of Christian men have an issue with sexual sin. As long as numbers are showing "half", we have a crisis of character on our hands.
And, when the issue is discussed from the puplit, we need to provide clear answers and hope on how to break free from lust; we need to do more that just say it's sin. We need to encourage those who are sexually broken to step forward and get help.
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Steve
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Posted: Sun May 15th, 2005 01:22 pm |
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This is a very good post and reply.
The only thing I'll add is one will also find this type of "church building" mentality in the news when there's a fire. Haven't you ever seen the headlines similar to "The (Blank) Church burned down last night and arson is suspected". Uh no, it was just the church building that burnt down. The church itself is probably alive and well, and who knows, maybe they'll have their service in the parking lot one the next Sunday. 
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clean2day
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Posted: Wed Apr 11th, 2007 07:01 am |
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This post I must reply!!!!
When I first tryed, to go to someone for help, a pastor about my use of porn. I was told "To just stop looking at it". He had no idea what I was really saying.
The pastor, as I feel many are, do not know what porn and sexual sin is. They know it isn't good, nor should it be tolarated. But they do not know what or how to deal with it. That is where we, yes we, those that have walked or have been walking in this sin need to stand up and be counted. We have to show ourselves to be the leaders in the fight against this sin. Speak out and say that there is hope. Tell others that whith Christ there is freedom, forgivness and a new light.
That goes for the spouses also. If one stands with there mate then others will come forward. Will, some churches look down on us? Yes, but then there are the churches that are not alive. A church that will condim and point a finger is already dead.
A good Christren is one that will get out of the boat and walk on the water toward Christ.
C2d
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When you need a friend, Jesus will be there.
When you need to talk, Jesus will listen.
And if you need to cry, Jesus will hold you close.
Rev E. O. Hilt 1908 - 1988
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