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Posted: Tue Aug 19th, 2008 03:42 pm |
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It seems for me nowadays that my body reacts very fast on stimuli. Wonder what to do with this?
I.e. I was to a massagist and when laying in my underwear on my stomach it ended up with orgasm and wet. I don't know if the massagist got that..
And then after a while I was to turn around and laying on my back and then in one way I hoped it should happen again, maybe kindo exposing fear and see that it might not be so dangerous, that I survive it..
Maybe these are ocd-thoughts? Going for and wanting worst-cases.. and maybe seeing that I survive them..
There can seem to something that MUST NOT HAPPEN: Kindo getting erection in the shower with guys..
And this was a guy who massaged me, so then it might SHOULD NOT HAPPEN, so it might was a little bit scary..
So exposing the terrible things might help to lower the fear, but that might not be a right way?
I.e. if I fear that I will kill somebody, it might not be the right thing to do it?
I might fear that there is some homosexuality in me..
There might be some ocd-thoughts..
I feel I struggle with masculinity and maybe fear of being homosexual and I think it might be better to feel after and see what is there than just denying things. It might not come very much good out of that..?
Some months ago I was to young female physio-therapist. That was first time and maybe I was quite tense. She asked me to take off my clothes and I was standing there in only underwear and I was laying on a bench and it ended up with ejaculation while laying on my back.
I don't know if that would happen if masturbating just before..?
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Posted: Wed Aug 20th, 2008 01:34 pm |
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Seems to me that maybe you should avoid these massage parlors, and physio-therapists. Especially if the therapist is a young woman asking you to disrobe. Just seems like a temptation and a situation I'd want to avoid. If your body is so sensitive that a massage causes an ejaculation, maybe you shouldn't be getting massages. Also, masturbating more to "desensitize" your body isn't the right way to go about breaking free from sexual addiction. A close relationship with Jesus Christ is what breaks this.
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Posted: Wed Aug 20th, 2008 01:59 pm |
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| I agree, stay away and get with God. You're putting yourself in harms way.
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Posted: Wed Aug 20th, 2008 02:13 pm |
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| Not so sure about that. I have back-problems and it might be good for me to go to a physiotherapist to get help and I am single, very much alone, little skin contact. Isn't it healty to be touched?
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Posted: Wed Aug 20th, 2008 03:57 pm |
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I think the touch you are refering is between to consensual adults.
Going into a business (Massage Parlor, Physiotherapist), sexualizing the service meant for theraputic purposes and you're ejaculating as a result... those folks are not there for you in that way.
Do you tell them your sexual experience? What do you think they would do if they knew you were sexualizing them?
Be careful buddy, you might find yourself in some deep legal issues later.
By the way, what has you doctor recommended for your back?
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Posted: Wed Aug 20th, 2008 06:22 pm |
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Oh, I get irritated on you guys. The body reacts. Is that illegal?
Is it illegal to have nocturnal emissions? What can I do for that? Do I choose that? I feel you accuse me for sexualizing it. Do you think that you are better than me? Nowadays things happen down there quite often, on the tube, contacting people..
It irritates me that you kindo scare me. You might not understand me. Is it illegal to be aroused when walking outside? Is this something that I can choose? Maybe it was stupid to tell you guys about this?
Maybe you are not very supporting actually..
I feel scared and sad. Maybe you are very far out guys?
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Posted: Wed Aug 20th, 2008 06:32 pm |
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Isn't it quite physical and natural? I was out dancing and it seems to grow, more with some and less wit others. Should I stay inside? Move to an island?
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Posted: Wed Aug 20th, 2008 06:47 pm |
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I'm not judging but it seems like you are okay with sexualizing an experience meant to heal. That's not cool.
You put the questions out there and you recieved a response.
Ask long enough and eventually somebody will agree with your perspective, I don't know.
I consider myself a sex addict and I believe I hit bottom. It has taken many years to restore myself only because my relationship with God is much more important. I still have my moments where I sin but I have many more victories.
I guess you can justify your actions, in an office or in a club.
Here's what the gospel says:
Ephesians 5: 3 But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God's holy people.
I'm not an expert and I'm not judging but what is it you intended by asking your questions? Did you not seek some form of recommendation/s?
Do you want people to agree with you? Pray about Bro.
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Posted: Wed Aug 20th, 2008 06:51 pm |
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I got irritated. I felt stupid and little and maybe scared. Did I do something wrong? And maybe I am misguided by you..?
What about unwanted erections? What to do with them? What do you do with that guys? Does it never happen? Or ejaculations..?
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Posted: Wed Aug 20th, 2008 08:41 pm |
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I think I'm starting to understand what you're asking. Are you trying to figure out what sin is? What is right? and what is wrong? Because there is a difference (I think) between being so sensitive that a massage gives you an orgasm, and looking at pornography and masturbating. Now if you know that more than likely you'll have an orgasm from a massage, it's probably not wise to get a massage. Also, what's going on in your mind when you get these unwanted erections, or have an orgasm from a massage? If you're thinking lustful thoughts, then I would say yes, it is wrong. Now about wet dreams. I don't think there's anything you can do about that at the time. That's something that happens in your subconscious. But it will change by the renewing of your mind. If you're filling your mind with pornography and other lustful thoughts all day long, you're training your brain to think a certain way.
Romans 12:2 - Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.
Jesus also says that if your right eye causes you to sin, gouge it out. And if your right arm causes you to sin, cut it off. I other words, cut off what causing you to stumble. For some people it's cable TV. For others it's disconnecting the internet. It's different for everybody, and only you know exactly what's causing you to stumble. But really, the bottom line is a close relationship with Jesus Christ. When you start pursuing Him more than anything else, all the other problems fade away. Are you saved?
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Posted: Wed Aug 20th, 2008 09:18 pm |
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Hi Man,
It sounds like you are saying that there has been a change in your physical reactions, but that there have not been any notable differences in your daily routines. I might suggest a physical examination by your medical doctor and discussing the situation with him, as there could be some physiological reason for an increase in unwanted erectile activity. If all physical reasons are ruled out without any explanation, then it would be time to examine the emotional components.
Homosexuals are those who behave homosexually. Pedophiles are people who behave sexually with children. They are wrong according to the Bible and human law in the case of pedophilia. Having your body respond without feeding it with fantasies of such interactions is outside of your control, so is not wrong unless you follow through on the physical reaction with inappropriate behavior or explore such behavior in deliberate fantasy.
For your back, you might try a seated/chair massage where you remain fully clothed.
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Posted: Fri Aug 22nd, 2008 12:33 am |
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Thanks for the responses. I don't know why my body reacts with erectile activity so fast nowadays. When trying not to have self-sex, I feel I get much more tense and maybe also I am very lonely so that things very easy might get sexualised and maybe I get quite seldom touched so my body easily will react in a sexual way if being touched.
CB: I don't know if nocturnal emissions will stop if being single and not masturbating? I don't know. Maybe it has to come out all the same. I don't know...
Is it so that seamen is produced and overstored and must out?
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Posted: Fri Aug 22nd, 2008 03:39 pm |
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Posted: Wed Sep 3rd, 2008 02:04 am |
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Being single and trying to abstain from m might make a lot of tensions in the body.. and the body might react with semi-erections or erections very fast.. and sometimes nocturnal emissions..
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Posted: Wed Sep 3rd, 2008 02:39 pm |
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Your body will adjust as you stop acting out sexually. I'd suggest putting more energy into changing your mind than worrying about your body.
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Posted: Thu Sep 4th, 2008 08:04 pm |
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Yesterday, I just watched and it happened that ejaculation came. Maybe because I am heavy loaded? It has also happened with massage and during night... so it might be some physical reactions in the body...?
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Posted: Mon Sep 15th, 2008 06:03 pm |
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I am single. I em very seldom being touched by anyone. Maybe that's not healty. Maybe it would be healty to be more touched by someone..
Do you think it is healthy to be touched by more? Skin-contact?
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Posted: Tue Sep 16th, 2008 02:57 pm |
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Wonder how to deal with unmet needs, i.e. sexual satisfaction. I am a single man.
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Posted: Mon Sep 22nd, 2008 01:50 pm |
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Another thing: When not m, my body seems to be extremely tense. A lot of strange things can happen, i.e: sexual reaction during massage. It seems to be very physical..
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Posted: Tue Sep 23rd, 2008 03:16 am |
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Say this prayer and MEAN IT:
Lord Jesus, I am a sinner. I believe that you died upon the cross for me. That you shed your precious blood for the forgiveness of my sin. And I believe that on the third day, you rose from the dead, and went to Heaven to prepare a place for me. I accept you now as my Savior, my Lord, my God, my friend. Come into my heart, Lord Jesus, and set me free from my sin. And, because you are my Savior, Jesus, "I shall not die, but have everlasting life". Thank you Jesus!
You can't get over this struggle on your own. You can't go from being sexual deviant to 100% pure. You can't do it alone nor are you in control. Surrender all to Christ and let his take over. Sexuality, lust, etc. is a struggle. If you want to be PM free, say that prayer and MEAN IT. Then you will see a change for the better in your life. It doesn't happen over night but it hapens. Everything happens for a reason.
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