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Posted: Wed Mar 18th, 2009 04:57 pm |
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Hi
When being single it seems to be some challenges that might be different from others? I.e when being in need of back-treatment, the body can be so tense and easily respond with ejacualtion when trying to not masturbate.
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Posted: Wed Mar 18th, 2009 05:09 pm |
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I can understand your frustration at your body responding in this way. However, it would be a misnomer to assume that this is a phenomenon that is unique to you because of being single. The same symptoms could happen just as easily to a man who is married.
I am definitely not trying to be insensitive here. I know you are really struggling with this and I appreciate that. I was single once (wasn't born married!  ) and I can assure you that marriage does not solve any problems. Sexual sin is difficult on both sides of the marriage altar.
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Posted: Wed Mar 18th, 2009 05:24 pm |
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Yes, but when being married you have a place to go with your sexuality and your body might not be so full and tense??
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Posted: Wed Mar 18th, 2009 05:27 pm |
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Again, that is a faulty assumption. Believe it or not, I haven't had any sexual release (apart from a nocturnal emission last week) in over three months. My wife has been ill and sex is just not an option for her right now.
My point isn't to contradict, but to explain that being married doesn't mean that the struggle gets any easier. For me, marriage in many ways made it worse. The sense of shame when I acted out was much deeper because I knew I was betraying my wife. When I was single, I could deceive myself into believing I was just hurting myself (I'm not hurting anyone...).
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Posted: Wed Mar 18th, 2009 05:31 pm |
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Yea, thanks John.
But to ejaculate when being treated for physical pain might not be very funny when the body is rubbed..
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Posted: Wed Mar 18th, 2009 05:43 pm |
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Posted: Wed Mar 18th, 2009 09:33 pm |
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Man when you feel pain and when you orgasm your body releases endorphins and they give you a relaxed feeling and numb pain. Maybe your body is just giving you to many endorphins when you are having physical therapy? Also some people are just really sensitive to touch and having something like someone rubbing your back could push them over the edge causing them to orgasm?
I am still a virgin so I wouldn't know, but from what I have heard having sex is a lot more enjoyable than masturbation. Maybe not having a partner there for 'release' (how I took what you said) just makes you need more stimulation to fully climax?
When you are having your back therapy is it enjoyable, like do you feel like you are having sex or do you just feel like you are having pressure put on your back?
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Posted: Tue Sep 29th, 2009 10:05 am |
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If you simply use your wife as a receptacle for that which you need to be rid of, she will sense it, she will resent it, it will destroy the marriage relationship. Please, please, please do not regard your wife simply as a sexual object. You may think that you can hide this from her, and it may work for some time, but when she catches on, the marriage and any genuine love and affection your wife felt for you will end.
Sign me.........been there, done that.........burned the T-shirt.
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Posted: Tue Sep 29th, 2009 06:49 pm |
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Devastated Wife; thanks for your replay!
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Posted: Thu Oct 29th, 2009 04:16 pm |
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Anyone who have some good solutions for the life as single; Massage?
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Posted: Wed May 12th, 2010 04:08 pm |
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It's hard to be single and wanting body contact or maybe it wouldn't help for the problems that I have. Anyone who have some experience here?
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Posted: Fri Jul 8th, 2011 01:44 am |
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Some time ago I went to the doctor. I have back problems. The doctor touched me a little bit and my body reacted with ejaculation. Then it might be better to masturbate upfront? I don't know..
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Posted: Fri Aug 19th, 2011 12:01 pm |
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It's difficult, needing skin-contact? Do I need that? Massage? It can easily be sexual..? Or do I not really need skin-contact? Is it just a substitute? I donno
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Posted: Wed Aug 24th, 2011 09:07 am |
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I wonder what is a real need and what is a substiute-need. When it comes to food it can become a substitute for real things and it can become/ is a real need? So what about skin-contact?
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Posted: Sat Aug 27th, 2011 09:43 am |
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And how to handle sexual impulses and impulses from other people in a right way; Smell, voice, eyes see thing and so on... How to take the impulses and make them/ treat them in a right way?
I guess I cannot control other people but how to handle things/ impulses right?
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Posted: Sun Aug 28th, 2011 08:27 pm |
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Man, you mention your back and needing treatment for that.
I found that even though I had made the decision to not think sexually when someone was giving me an all-over body massage and successfully managed to keep any sexual thoughts away, I found it an up hill struggle to fight my body's reaction to that kind of touching. I can see how that sort of treatment can cause someone like myself with extra hypersensitivity to touch to be automatically aroused without the mind being engaged in any sexual thought at all.
I had a very bad back a few years ago and had a series of treatments that involved all-over body massage (except the privates, of course), and I won't go into details but it did make my body react.
The consequence of that was embarrassment and the worry that something might be noticed by the doctor giving the massage.
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Posted: Sun Aug 28th, 2011 10:09 pm |
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Maybe the body is more sensitive to touch if the soul is hungry? Or the body is extra sensitive to touch if being single and if there is a real need for physical contact?
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Posted: Sun Aug 28th, 2011 11:14 pm |
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Yes, I think you're right, Man. I'd say that I'm deprived of physical contact most of the time so that if there is anything so out of routine as an all over body massage (for the sake of injured back in my case), I feel the touch more perhaps than if it were something more frequently experienced. I don't think I'd go through that kind of treatment again. It was hard to keep the mind from wandering.
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Posted: Tue Sep 13th, 2011 12:26 pm |
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Hi guys, sorry for eventually being graphic and offensing anybody, but for me it is a problem that I have back-problems and I might get help from massage or something like that, but it might also be sexual. Donno how to deal with this and I might need skin-contact as something real, a real need, but I am not sure if it is a real need or a substitute-need. I am between 35 and 45 and single.
I find it problematic with the back and the sexuality that might occur when I might get treated for back-problems.
Best regards!
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