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Mechelle
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Posted: Sat Jun 20th, 2009 04:37 am |
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** If this issue has already been answered elsewhere on this message board, please send me a link to the posts!** 
While our sex life is wonderful and very fulfilling there is one lasting effect from the years of masturbation that we don't know how to fix. While he is able to make love for a long period of time, he is not able to ejaculate without manual stimulation very often. This has just been incorporated into our love-making, not making an issue of it. However, he would like for this to change but we don't know how.
Has anyone else dealt with this? How were you able to overcome this?
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bil4913
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Posted: Tue Jun 23rd, 2009 03:02 pm |
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Great question.
First off, praise God that things are as good as they are. This is victory for you both. Secondly, I commend you for not being consumed with anxiety about this, but still wanting the very best lovemaking life possible.
I have only two suggestions:
1) pray; ask the Lord for wisdom on this. If you already are doing this, cool!
2) check out another great resource specifically for Christian sexuality: http://themarriagebed.com/. It's run by two of my dearest friends and you may get better answers by joining the bulletin board there (or you can directly ask them).
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john
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Posted: Tue Jun 23rd, 2009 03:22 pm |
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| I would like to warn those on the board here struggling with sexual integrity about the marriage bed site. It can be very triggering in its descriptions about sex. Just be wise about that please.
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Mechelle
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Posted: Tue Jun 23rd, 2009 11:02 pm |
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Thanks so much! I have already found The Marriage Bed, it's been bookmarked for a while now. Triggers are not so much a problem, I can just read through everything myself and sift out anything not pertaining to us. I can save what may relate to us and we can discuss it when we are together so it eliminates his struggles with triggers as much as possible.
So far though, I have not found anything that really seems to have the right info...
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Pepper
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Posted: Tue Nov 3rd, 2009 06:06 pm |
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I guess my question would be does he masturbate on his own/by himself.
If he does that can be another question altogether and may just give you your answer.
I know I have read about men who do masturbate for long periods of time
and can't ejaculate because they are used to manual stimulation and not anything
else.
But if he only does it while he is having sex with you, then I have never heard of that.
I agree with the post that says ask God for wisdom, there is so much power in prayer
and I think the big thing is God wants to solve our problems.
I appreciate your post it probably wasn't an easy thing to write, most of the important
questions are. And I think it is a blessing that you two do have a wonderful sex life many
people can't say that, and are caught in a christian sexual addiction and are just
trying to become free of that.
If you want prayer on this issue that is what I do. Here is my website http://www.christiansexualaddiction.com
and God Bless I know he will give you the answers you need
Deacon Pepper
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Mechelle
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Posted: Wed Nov 11th, 2009 12:07 pm |
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| Thanks so much for your reply. He does not masturbate by himself. We are still working through this, but not making an issue out of it...
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