Sexual fantasies when intamte with wife
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  Posted: Thu Aug 27th, 2009 04:38 am
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I have considered myself a Christian for over 40 years but am beginning to wonder why I continue to be in bondage to sexual lust and fantasies.  I have depended for 30 years on sexual fantasies to complete masturbation or sex with my wife. (It is sin of adultery & sexual prevision.   I cannot complete the sex act with my wife without mental images/fantasies. This is perverse and sinful.  The only way to avoid it is not to engage in sex.  I have confessed to God and asked for forgiveness ,but apparently I have not truly repented or I would turn from this sin. I have confessed everything to my wife concerning my addiction.  She has forgiven me and we pray continuously for release with no relief.  We have been married for 45 years.  When I was a teenager it was way to avoid physically committing of fornication/adultery by keeping it only in my mind and when not with my now wife of 45 years I would fall back on masturbation.  (ALL SIN) I was in the Army for 26 years and separated many times and I vowed not to be physically unfaithful to my wife.  Yes, Yes I know that what I have done is not much different.  I know I was fooling myself because it is simply mental fornication or adultery.  Any ideas on how folks have been freed from this addiction.  I try to avoid sex so as not to engage in the fantasies but it is often unfair to my wife.  When we do make love I have to constantly focus my mind on praying that I will not allow the fantasies into my mind which results in zero completion on my part and my wife blames herself even after I tell her everything the it is my fault and my sin. I know the scripture says neither fornicators nor adulterers shall enter the Kingdom of God.  Any advice will be appreciated.
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Mana: 
  Posted: Thu Aug 27th, 2009 02:59 pm
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Hi Regret,

Welcome to BG.

The only suggestion I recall hearing, you have probably already tried--always be able to look your wife in the eyes.

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