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| Posted: Thu Mar 22nd, 2007 12:26 am |
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guitarist63 Member
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Until last year, I didn't consider that traumatic events from my past had been completely blocked out of my memory until my sister told me a couple. She told me another last weekend. Has anyone else had siblings tell them about traumas they had forgotten? Is it a help to be told about them when you have forgotten? Last edited on Fri Jun 22nd, 2007 12:50 am by guitarist63 |
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| Posted: Thu Mar 22nd, 2007 12:52 am |
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P2J Member
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Hi guitarist63, Yep, I believe that has been a turning point for me. Check out: http://www.blazinggrace.org/forums/forum1/826.html Happy day
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| Posted: Thu Mar 22nd, 2007 07:53 pm |
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guitarist63 Member
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Thanks for your feedback, P2J and for forwarding me to your recent post. How interesting that you mention something called PTSD. Post-traumatic stress disorder. I think you may be right about a link between the PTSD and the later sex addiction. Last edited on Sat Mar 22nd, 2008 06:14 pm by guitarist63 |
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| Posted: Mon Sep 5th, 2011 11:01 am |
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Man Member
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I guess not being seen/ met in my childhood has destroyed me more or less completely.
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| Posted: Mon Sep 5th, 2011 12:39 pm |
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Man Member
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Yes, I guess most of my life has been a trauma, but I think I also had some episodes where it felt I was not far away from dying and those things might influence me a lot today... I am not sure really how to go through traumas. And again, I am not here to be explained and fixed. Am I clearer now than I have been before maybe? I am not here to get fixed, but maybe someone has some interesting thoughts that I can pick up something of. Best regards Last edited on Mon Sep 5th, 2011 12:41 pm by Man ____________________ May the Lord bless you all! |
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| Posted: Mon Sep 5th, 2011 01:32 pm |
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Man, sorry to read you posts about the traumas you have suffered through life. PTSD was mentioned in this thread (post traumatic stress disorder) which is a very curious thing. The mind is very selective what it remembers of both pleasant as well as unpleasant experiences. I wonder whether the losing of a shocking memory of something traumatic isn't a safety feature built into us by God. The mind and body can perhaps heal better if the mind forgets some of the traumas that happen in life.
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| Posted: Mon Sep 5th, 2011 10:28 pm |
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I think it is better to talk about things, then forget it ever happened. Find someone you can trust and just talk about it. I have had alot of tramatic experiences happen, and I have talked to alot of people about it. It usually makes me feel better, and in some cases it even helped someone open up to me about thier tramatic experiences. I have an ex boyfriend, that says he doesn't remeber anything before the age of 12. All he will say is that his dad beat him all the time, and prolly sexually abused him. We would fight alot, because I would try to get him to talk about it. He would tell me to forget it. And not even talk about my past. Well we broke up. But still stay in contact. He has now apologized, and said I was right, that it is better to talk about those things. He said he has alot of anger, and things remind him of his childhood alot. Alot of people had messed up childhoods, Rape, abuse, incest, etc. IF people would open up more about it. Alot more people would feel more comfatable, and seek help. And more would get healed. I pray for each of you, that if you have a flashback, or a memory, you go to God with it. Talk to him about it. Do not let yourself be shamed, or upset. God has forgiven you. So forgive yourself.
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| Posted: Tue Sep 6th, 2011 11:17 pm |
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guitarist63 Member
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Thanks Tiffandrock for sharing your thoughts on the subject of trauma and thanks for your prayers for us. The traumas I am not actually mentioning here in detail were things that happened to me but which I had no memory of. It was only my younger sister who recalled them for me. There are other kinds of trauma I can remember. Things which I have needed to forgive others for. A problem for me is that I can't remember the names or the faces of those who caused the trauma. Last edited on Sun May 6th, 2012 07:18 pm by guitarist63 |
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| Posted: Mon Sep 26th, 2011 06:12 am |
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Same here. My sister remembers more than I do and she gets upset when I tell her I don't remember. I want to remember and can't. I do remember the beatings with belts,switch's. The anger and look in my parents eye's when they punished me. I remember failing the 3rd grade and thinking about killing myself,my mom caught me with the gun and told me when my dad gets home i'm going to get twice as bad. Maybe that's why I have such a distorted image of God. Wow, I think it is. BigD,
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| Posted: Mon Sep 26th, 2011 12:28 pm |
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Thanks for sharing, BigD. You've had a very traumatic childhood and mine was relatively free by comparison. I was never beaten with belts or switches. I got one beating in total time at school from the Head. Last edited on Mon Sep 26th, 2011 12:28 pm by guitarist63 |
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| Posted: Fri Sep 30th, 2011 03:37 pm |
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I'm the one with the super, duper memory in the family. I'm the one telling the siblings who, where & what happened years ago. They are amazed at the level of detail. While it is helpful lots of times, it's been a curse aswell. There is plenty I'd like to forget. I believe even if you don't know/remember something about your past that it can and does effect you. I knew the sexual abuse done to me existed, but I never connected the dots to see how it tainted every single decision I ever made, pretty much about everything. After realising the what could've / should've beens, I mourned all the loss. So here I knew what happened in the past & couldn't see the forest for the trees (with my eyes wide open). If your standing there blindfolded, doesn't mean that forest with all the trees isn't there...
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| Posted: Sat Oct 1st, 2011 01:17 pm |
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guitarist63 Member
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Good points, Gino. What we have forgotten (or deliberately shut out of our minds) can still affect our future actions.
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