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faith_inthedarkness
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Posted: Fri Aug 1st, 2008 07:57 pm |
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| Hey, I'm new here and I just wanted to let you all know that you have another girl on this site. I know there's probably not as many of us women on here as there are men. I wanted you to know that you're not alone and I'm here to talk. I'm 19 and I'm a survivor of sexual abuse and rape. I'm addicted to masturbation. I hope we'll get to know each other. You all are in my prayers. God bless you! It's through the power and love of Christ that we can heal from this.
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truthseeker
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Posted: Fri Aug 1st, 2008 09:17 pm |
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Hi Faith,
Welcome. My heart aches for all that you have been through.
Once your brother was stopped, have you had any opportunity for counselling? Have you been able to open up to your mother, close friends, or pastor's or youth pastor's wife? Have you had any support from other young women who have lived this nightmare?
Whether you have or not, I posted a list of books on the Resources forum a while back about healing from abuse. I hope that might be useful in addition to the avenues of support you are already pursuing.
I am glad that you are seeking healing at an early age, because sweeping such trauma under the rug of denial only causes it to rear its ugly head later. These feeling are something you definitely want to have a handle on before becoming involved in a serious dating relationship and marriage.
Praying for you...
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faith_inthedarkness
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Posted: Fri Aug 1st, 2008 11:55 pm |
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Thank you for replying and for your compassion. It really means a lot. In answer to your questions.... I've have three different counselors. My last counseling session was back in May. I was supposed to call my counselor and schedule another appointment two weeks later, but I never did. My mother was the person I told that night it was stopped. She's also a sexual abuse survivor, but she doesn't support me. She made sure it was stopped, but she told me I was making a mountain out of molehill and that I should be over it by now. That was many months ago.  I have been able to open up to some of my friends at college. They're safe people and fellow Christians that have helped me and taught me so much in such a short time. I haven't talked to my pastor's wife, and my Church doesn't have a youth pastor. I have gotten the opportunity to talk with fellow survivors. My sister is a survivor from the same abuser. I've met so many women and girls that have gone through what I have. I think God might be calling me to ministry for survivors of sexual abuse and rape. I thank you again for replying and support. Just thanks so much. God bless you. =) -Jerelle
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Posted: Sat Aug 2nd, 2008 12:30 am |
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Hi Jerelle,
No one has the prerogative to say when you "should" be over it. Even if someone has experienced abuse, each person's experiences differ, as does their healing. Yes, there are similarities, but you will not fit perfectly in to another's mold, especially one who may not have had the resources or support to fully recover instead of bottle it all up under a facade of normalcy.
If you were not comfortable with the counsellor, I urge you to seek another. If you just didn't get around to making the appointment due to summer plans, please pick it up soon. Your college may also have helpful resources, which may differ in helpfulness depending on the nature of the school.
*Hugs*
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Posted: Sun Aug 3rd, 2008 04:39 am |
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faith_inthedarkness wrote: Thank you for replying and for your compassion. It really means a lot. In answer to your questions.... I've have three different counselors. My last counseling session was back in May. I was supposed to call my counselor and schedule another appointment two weeks later, but I never did. My mother was the person I told that night it was stopped. She's also a sexual abuse survivor, but she doesn't support me. She made sure it was stopped, but she told me I was making a mountain out of molehill and that I should be over it by now. That was many months ago. I have been able to open up to some of my friends at college. They're safe people and fellow Christians that have helped me and taught me so much in such a short time. I haven't talked to my pastor's wife, and my Church doesn't have a youth pastor. I have gotten the opportunity to talk with fellow survivors. My sister is a survivor from the same abuser. I've met so many women and girls that have gone through what I have. I think God might be calling me to ministry for survivors of sexual abuse and rape. I thank you again for replying and support. Just thanks so much. God bless you. =) -Jerelle I want to thank you for your reply and prayers for me. And also to let you know that my wife was also sexually abused by her grandfather. What her parents did when they found out was to just sweep it under the rug and tell her to forget it ever happened. And needless to say, that was bad because I think it made her feel betrayed by the very ones who were supposed to protect her, and we are both suffering because of it. Truthseeker is absolutely right; if you can get a handle on this before you marry, it will save you and your spouse years of suffering and sorrow. It is good, very good that you are not keeping silent about it, as silence only makes the wounds continue to fester. May God bless you in your work and encouragement to other survivors, and a hearty welcome.
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InnerGold
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Unfortunately, sexual abuse is more common than I think any of us wish to admit. Recent studies have shown that 1 out 3 has been abused some how. This is staggering to think of such numbers. Sexual abuse has been passed on from generation to generation. It is important to recognize it so it does not continue.
Some people may think they can just brush abuse under the carpet and it does not affect them anymore. This is not the case.
Abuse is part of their life, it happened and whether they want to deal with it or not, properly, is up to them but it effects how they respond to situations. It effects their emotions, interaction with others, etc... It really has an effect that they don't even realize.
Many who go through rape, abuse, etc... tend to train their brains that they need masturbation, sex, pornography or some other kind of drug to survive. It is important to recognize the triggers so that you can put management techniques into place before you act out. This will also help with the healing process as you approach Heavenly Father.
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