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zech122
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Posted: Thu Dec 4th, 2008 04:54 pm |
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I don't post on here often, but would like to ask for prayer for my marriage. As far as I know my h has not acted out, please pray that he does not.
We have been having communication problems. I have unintentionally hurt my h very deeply. He feels disrespected and unloved. We can't talk to each other at the moment. He says that I have killed him. He has no hopes or dreams left. He only exists each day waiting to die.
When I try to talk about how I think things got this bad either I'm told I'm selfish or that I'm blaming him. So I feel stuck between a rock and a hard place. I think we need someone neutral to help us "hear" each other. I did call someone that helped us before, but h will not speak with him.
I hope I am not sounding like I am blamin all this on him. It is just as much my fault. He doesn't think we can work this out, and why do I tell everyone out problems. Well I did talk to someone in person as well as calling this man who helped us before. Other than that I have posted a couple prayer request on different sites, which are annonymous. I've also shared with another online support group, only some of whom I have actually met in person. I certainly hope and pray that we can work through this, but I don't think we can do it without God first and without a neutral person to help us.
Please just pray that our marriage will survive and for what I need to do.
In Christ,
Zech122
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Posted: Thu Dec 4th, 2008 05:32 pm |
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Hi Zech,
Praying for you both...
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Posted: Tue Dec 9th, 2008 02:20 am |
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zech, i really understand sis what your going threw , it sounds like your husband need to forgive you , and you tell him once your sorry after you have given it to god, god forgives and forgets , but its hard for us humans once we ruin that trust thing its hard to get it back and takes a while , , but time can heal , just keep praying and seeking god, i feel it would be wrong to keep harping him about what ever it was , the thing to do is love him and pray for him openly , that you love him and hope he can find forgiveness in his heart for you , leave bible pamphlets lay around something loving and easy to read and it pertains to your situation , i will pray for you sis , i also know what he is feeling, when you get hurt or you have done something to cause that hurt it feels like things will never get better , your husband is at a time in his life where he thinks he has lived it and has nothing to live for, try to find a point of interest you know he likes and get him started in it ,
i will pray for you sis , i feel god is telling me he loves you and he will see you threw this just lean on him and love
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Posted: Tue Dec 9th, 2008 02:28 am |
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zech , a few months ago my husband left after two years of knowing we were pretty much over , and i was fighting his family also, but now things have turned around and each day it has gotten so much greater, my husband knows about the wrongs he has done to me and god is showing him more and more the pain he has caused me, i just want to say when i thought nothing could help god intervened and turned it around i had no idea how he would , but my husband and i are closer and more understanding of one another then what we were when we were married
so hang in there , pray and read the bible and watch christian shows ,
god will soften your husbands heart again , dress to kill for him , i mean that in a good way to , fix him favorite meals , think about it what do we do when we date we
treat them , go for it
love him and see your man for the first time , and he will see you
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zech122
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Posted: Tue Dec 9th, 2008 01:40 pm |
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Thank you Katcarving for your reply. You said much I was thinking about, but you put better words to it and I needed to hear it.
My h is a truck driver so right now he is on the road and won't be home until Christmas. Thanks to God, though we are talking again and working on things. I just need God's strength to change some of my ways.
Thanks again for the prayers.
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Posted: Tue Dec 9th, 2008 03:54 pm |
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THATS SWEET SIS , I CAN TELL GOD ALREADY IS JUST BY YOU ADMITTING IT, WE ARE ALL RECLINED TO DEFEND OURSELVES , AND WHEN I WAS BEFORE THE LORD HE SHOWED ME SOMEHTING I NEVER KNEW , GOD IS A GOD OF GREAT LOVE AND COMPASSION, THIS MEAN,S DON;T WORRY . LOVE HIM READ THE BIBLE AND GET TO KNOW HIM. HE SAID , AND HE WILL COME TO YOU WITH ALL THINGS , AND HE DOES OH HE DOES , AND THE THING IS IT;S REALLY SO EASY , GO TO CHURCH , READ THE BIBLE , AND FOLLOW GOD AND ALL ELSE WILL COME SIS, YOU R ON MY MIND AND IN MY PRAYS , AND I TRUELY KNOW GOD WILL CHANGE THINGS FOR YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND, AND BOTH OF YOU KEEP THAT OPEN CHILD LIKE MIND
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