My wife and I have been separated for several months because I was lost in porn to ease any internal pain I had. Long story short, I repented, found God and was saved. My wife kissed and dated another man while we were separated -- we still are separated. Problem is, she still throws the past in my face but when she does that all I want to do is say "you acted out physically" while I only have with my eyes. She said she forgives me and I do believe her. I know her pain and wish I could take it away. I don't want to be selfsih but what about my pain? When I hug her I feel like she wishes she was hugging the guy she cheated on me with. I read the article on "Healing a Broken Marriage" and it says to let her vent. If I try to vent I get hung up on. We both wronged each other but we are married and believe in a Godly marriage.
What am I to do now because I take the emotional abuse and seem desperate because I want to put the past behind and build a strong foundation with God in our marriage??
Note to separated people: You have no right to date or have any sexual relations with anyone during separation. It's a time for healing and self-evaluating. You made a commitment.
Last edited on Wed May 16th, 2007 02:47 am by savedbutshattered
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