My Husband is Leaving Me for His Addiction
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  Posted: Tue Sep 22nd, 2009 10:42 pm
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Hi ---- My story is similar to yours.  What I have done is to focus on healing myself.  I have realized that I have been an addict to my husband's addiction(s).  My marriage and my well being had been based on whether or not my husband was living his secret "double-life" with his sex addiction.  If I had no proof that he was "using" I would be happy.  If I discovered pornography, or single-dating service activity, my day (life) would be miserable.  There is nothing ---- ZERO I can do for my husband's choices and actions.  I have been attending a Christ centered 12-step program called
"Celebrate Recovery" wherein I focus on me and touch on the places in me that I need to heal instead of focusing on controlling, fixing, figuring-out, diagnosing my husband.   We are now separated.  I have felt more peace than I have experienced in the last 12 years of my marriage.  I don't know if he is "using" or not, all I know is that the Lord has blessed me with peace and healing, one single day at a time.  I put my husband's life into Father God's hands.  I look back and wonder how I could have ever done anyway else. 

Peace and Blessings to you.

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