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Posted: Tue Nov 24th, 2009 09:48 pm |
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| Hey, i was curious. if your son or daughter admitted their porn addiction to you how would you react... I want to tell my dad but im kinda scared he might not love me anymore...just curious to see how others would react.
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Posted: Wed Nov 25th, 2009 12:17 am |
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I'd ask questions and tell them more than they already know about my own recovery, and try to work out with them who might be the right counselor for them to work with and whether they were open to following the 12-step program, and whether they were more comfortable attending meetings with or without their dad.
Of course, our situation where they know I'm a sex addict in recovery and where that experience means I have some useful tools is not exactly parallel to yours.
Tim M.
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Posted: Wed Nov 25th, 2009 01:31 am |
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Hi Zach,
Speaking on behalf of my husband and I, when we discovered that our son had been viewing pornograpy, we confronted him. Hopefully we communicated our love and concern, but also that it was not a behavior we would in any way sanction in the home. My husband shared that he had shared this struggle, and we provided him with Every Young Man's Battle and workbook and offered listening ears.
How others have reacted, or think they might react, of course, is no guarantee of your own dad's reaction. Even parents who passionately love their kids may react strongly to news that is likely very disappointing. I would hope that most parents who are walking with the Lord, though, would move beyond the shock to positions of support and encouragement. You may just learn that it is a struggle your dad has experienced as well. If I were you, I think I would pray about the best opportunity to approach him, and how to go about it. If he knows the Lord, but is still prone to be very judgmental of others, you might approach more cautiously, or consider another believer with whom you might share. If he is not a believer, he may just tell you that all boys do that.
Praying for you...
TruthSeeker
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Posted: Wed Nov 25th, 2009 10:59 am |
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As a Mom and the wife of a sex addict, I would first and foremost be concerned with my son's welfare and the welfare of his future wife and family. I would hope that I would not be judgmental, but rather supportive and strong. I would be resolute, unwavering, and unapologetic with my requirements for treatment. "Tough Love" comes easily to me.
If you were a Dad, and your son came to you with this, how would you react?
If you cannot approach your own Dad, is there someone else who could help you with this?
Praying for you.......
My best, Devastated Wife
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