In this Issue:
** The Things that Drive Me Insane
** Visit My Booth at Heavenfest
** We Have No Idea Who We’re Dealing With
** Newsletter Archives
** Mike Genung’s Books ** Quick Links
** Final Words
The Things That Drive Me Insane
By Mike Genung
Some days, I wonder if these things might threaten to put me in the psych ward:
- The trail of broken hearts from porn.
Every week we receive emails from men and women who are suffering. Most of the men have been in bondage to sexual sin for decades and are desperate for answers. They hate themselves, what they’re doing, and how they’re hurting their families. Many have been or are in ministry. A few are on the verge of losing hope, and are even questioning their salvation.
Then there are the emails from stunned wives or girlfriends who discovered that the man they’re married or were going to marry isn’t who they thought he was. He’s been viewing porn and/or committing adultery throughout their marriage or courtship; they’re angry, hurting, frustrated, and confused.
Some marriages are teetering on the precipice of divorce. The husband has been in so deep for so long that his heart has hardened to the point where his wife’s pleas to get help are met with anger, manipulation, or blaming.
There are the kids. I can’t stand it when a family is ruptured from porn. Being a child of divorced parents myself, I know how a marital split tears the fabric of the soul. In addition to the effects of the divorce, the chances of the kids’ faith being lost increases. What does it say to a child about his father’s walk with God when he discovers Dad’s porn stash? Or that Dad was having sex with prostitutes? Was God too weak to set their father free from sin? Perhaps this is a part of the reason why 75% of our youth are exiting the church at the age of 18.
The thing that drives me insane is that much of this could be avoided if churches were willing to address the issue head on. However…
- “I can’t talk about this. Do you know what the people in my church would do if I started talking about pornography? … I can’t talk about porn from the pulpit.” This quote was from a pastor.
What’s wrong with us?? We can’t go to the grocery store without getting exposed to magazine covers and displays showing people who are near-naked, or get on a news website like Fox News or CNN and have to navigate around sexually suggestive pictures and content. Instead of helping people cope and overcome the temptations to lust, we shut it down and pretend that “everything is awesome” at church.
One recent survey showed that 90% of Christians said the church doesn’t adequately help those who are struggling with porn. With statistics showing that two-thirds of Christian men are viewing porn, church leadership should be freaking out and taking action, not hitting the ostrich hole.
This is an issue every church, para-church ministry, and family needs to discuss and deal with openly.
- Our misplaced priorities.
One professor at the Southern Baptist Theological Seminary said “Pornography is the greatest moral crisis in the church today, above issues of divorce and homosexuality. Christians can rail against homosexuality but then go to the computer and feed their addiction to porn.”
We’re too transfixed on the things that are going on outside of the church. A lukewarm church that’s porn-addicted cannot preserve or influence the culture.
Read the rest of this article here
Visit Me at Heavenfest
If you’re coming to the two day Heavenfest event Morrison, Colorado next week (August 4-5), stop by and see me; I’ll have a booth there. Just look for this sign:
We Have No Idea Who We’re Dealing With
There are moments during prayer when it hits me that there’s much more to God than I, the church, pastors, or anyone can get close to understanding.
We’re talking about a Being who made the sun; that massive ball of 10,000 degree fire with a radius of some 700,000 kilometers. The sun is more than 100 times the size of the earth; it’s distance from earth is perfect, so we’re given what we need to grow and survive without being incinerated. That boggles my mind.
He designed the human brain, that complex processing center with 100 billion neurons; each neuron is wired with 1,000 – 10,000 synapses. He designed and gave life to people, animals, and plants.
Then I think of what people say about Him. Pastors and Christians try to box Him into a set of principles they call “theology”. Everyone wants to take the Bible, and try to make sense of the pieces in a way that seems right to them.
Except, when I read the Bible, I just don’t know how you can do that. There are some verses that are clear, like “Thou shalt not kill,” or “love others,” but there are some verses that are difficult to package together; men have been debating about which of their doctrine-boxes are right for centuries.
I love what Rich Mullins said : “I think if we were given the scriptures it was not so that we could prove that we were right about everything. If we were given the scriptures it was to humble us into realizing that God is right and the rest of us are just guessing.”
I love it when a pastor says “I don’t know what this means… or how to put it together.” That’s when they leave room for God to be the incredible Being that He is with a wisdom way out of our league to understand. It puts man in his proper context next to the Creator of the Universe.
Read the rest of the article here.
You can read this and previous editions of the Blazing Grace Newsletter online at the archives.
June 2015: 30 Tips for Recovery and Healing for Men and Their Wives
May 2015: New Video: Porn, The Church, and What to Do About It
April 2015: New Video
March 2015: Why the Words Doctrine and Theology Make Me Cringe
February 2015: The Snake
January 2015: Rebuilding Trust
December 2014: Getting Your Life Back
October 2014: How’s Your Love Meter? August 2014: Where is Your Heart?
July 2014: New Video: Rebuilding Your Marriage
When born again believers stop petty bickering over non-essentials and go to their knees in old-fashioned, beseeching prayer, we shall have revival.